A few years ago I wrote a post making a plan for my first Mother’s Day without my mom. I was so emotional that first year without her. I just read the post again, thinking I might share it, but so much of it is hard to apply if you don’t live with your children anymore and have to keep distances and stay home in this strange and unprecedented time of history.
So, what will I do my first Mother’s Day without my mom or children or grands with me? I would have hoped for some outdoor fellowship, but it looks like we will have a cold and cloudy day in Minnesota. And I’m still recovering from surgery which limits me some.
What can a momma do in times like this?
I can spend time praying for each of my children and grandchildren. And maybe instead of praying for their needs, I can focus more on thanking God for all the good qualities I see in each of them.
If I’m feeling up to it, maybe I will bake a cake with Mom’s recipe, and stir it up in her old bowl, and put it on her cake platter. And I will remember all the things my sweet momma used to do to give her family joy and how blessed we were to have her.
Maybe I’ll call one of our relatives in Louisiana. She always loved to call her family. That one might make me cry though. I’ll have to see if I’m up to that.
I could spend some time looking at old photos and stirring up memories. I might sing “What a Friend We Have in Jesus”, the last hymn Momma was singing on her own, and a precious one to remember any day.
I wish the lilacs were blooming. Often they are by this time of year, but we are having too many cold days here now. Lilacs always bring back memories of Momma, young and healthy, filling vases with the lavender beauties. And I can almost smell the scented sheets that captured some of their perfume when they were hung out on the line.
Maybe some of my children will stop by and visit through the door or make video calls. And hopefully I’ll get a peek at some adorable grandchildren, too. I pray I’ll soak in their love and take joy in the moments and smiles.
It’s a different Mother’s Day. But the love is still there. The love is real. Social distancing doesn’t erase love.
I pray that I’ll keep a grateful heart. I will remember that even though I can’t hug my children and grands right now, I am so blessed to have each one of them.
And I will remember my momma with a grateful heart, too. She loved us all so well and left me a beautiful example.
And I will continue to pray for my 97 year old mother-in-law who is in quarantine now, because she’s tested positive for the Coronavirus. We are so thankful that she hasn’t shown any symptoms and it’s been over a week now.
It will be a strange and different Mother’s Day. But it can still be good. God is with us. His presence is real. His peace is a comfort to His children who trust in Him.
And when I miss Momma, I can picture her smiling. Happy and strong again, rejoicing in paradise with Jesus.
I pray each of you reading this has a very blessed Mother’s Day! I’d love to hear some of your plans!